A big misconception about a person who seems to win all the time is that he always wins. In reality, if a person never fails, he is already sucking up to a rattlesnake as big as west Texas.
A Blessing In Disguise!
One thing that a big honcho will never tell you is that; "it's ok to lose". But, speaking as a business man who has lost his pride and ego, I'm here to tell you, it is ok! In fact, it is critical. You see, losing is part of the cycle of living.
As Solomon once said, there's a time to live and a time to die; a time to sow, a time to reap. There is a time for everything under the sun. And unfortunately, losing is one of them. If some one never loses, how can they improve on what they've done?
They would just lie back, take it easy, suck up some suds, and wait on the next fortune to fall in their lap so they could go crying all the way to the bank. But, that guy will never improve because he will never struggle.
But, At The End Of The Day!
To succeed and win everyone will sooner or later fail. I think we have somehow been programmed to think that losing is our enemy. But, all the way from the business man to the elementary school child, losing is a cycle of living.
Losing can be a fantastic teacher, although an aggravating one. Losing can be just the thing someone needs at any given point in their life. Losing can bring you wisdom which is far greater than silver and gold.
When Thomas Edison was asked how he was able to deal with ten thousand failures in inventing the incandescent light bulb, he said, "I didn't fail; I just found ten thousand ways it wouldn't work."
Think about that wisdom that was passed on to our light bulb manufacturers today, they don't have to go through the same failures that Edison went through; he passed it on to them.
As Plain As Black And White!
So, it was Edison's mistakes and wisdom that make the silver and gold today for the bulb manufacturers. The thing that losing teaches us and this is so important; it teaches us what NOT to do.
There is a God given desire in everyone of us to succeed and win. It is almost as strong as the force of self-preservation. This is the reason we get our knickers all in a twist when success doesn't come. Say this to yourself three times, "losing is ok, but I'm a winner."
Ah...Crystal Clear!
I read somewhere that Vince Lombardi once said, "winning isn't everything, it's the only thing." I read somewhere else that Lombardi didn't say that. What he actually said was, "winning isn't everything, but making the effort to win is." Umm.
Now, we've got a horse of a different color. By taking on any project with the attitude of "effort", instead of winning at all costs, we spare ourselves the self-inflicted mental torment that robs us of joy and makes us want to take a long walk off a short pier.
That last paragraph is so important you should really read it again. Listen: you cannot control the outcome; all you can do is control the effort!
If you're the kind that personally takes all the credit and pats yourself on the back for every triumph, then remember this; a pat on the back is only a few inches from a kick in the bu**.
Face This Music!
Somebody also said if you can't accept losing, then you're not qualified to win. Losing is what makes a person fit to win!
To become a real winner in life, you have to test yourself. You have to be "willing" to reach beyond what you think you can really accomplish.
Become armed to the teeth with the "effort" attitude in mind, not winning at all costs, then, if all you end up with is ants in your pants, you won't feel like you're one French fry short of a happy meal.
A Force To Be Reckoned With!
Losing is NOT failure! Burn that in your memory. Anytime you test yourself, sorry to say, you will lose a percentage of the time. But, that is not failure! That is only a face a mother could love. Nah.. I'm just kidding, don't you get mad at me. Keep smiling now. :>)
That percentage of times you lose is only to make you smarter, wiser, and more compassionate, not to make you blow your stack, and confess "that's just my dumb luck", and go looking for a good place to lie down and have a heart attack.
I'm not saying you should be a good loser now. Because face it, a good loser is still a loser. Don't ever develop a loser mindset. Always say everyday, "it's ok to lose, but I'm a winner! This little voice in your head will keep your attitude adjusted in the right direction and, keep you focused on your efforts and not on your conclusions.
READ MY LIPS: You Can't Control Your Conclusions!
All you can do is control your efforts! The three rules of real estate are location, location, location. The three rules of losing are learning, learning, learning. You NEVER learn from your successes. You only learn from your losses.
Let me ask you a question! Are you good at something, I mean really good? Maybe golf, tennis, basketball, etc. If you are, do you remember when you reached a plateau? Did you notice how the game became boring? Like old hat? What did you do then?
You had to move up a little bit. You had to reach and struggle for the next level. Then what happened? Probably you began losing some. Now that was a strange experience for you wasn't it? Up till then you had been tucked safely away in your comfort area and got bored.
Bored To Tears!
When we test ourselves like this, the experience will be frustrating, challenging, exciting and yet fulfilling. You will lose, you will try again, you will lose again, you will try again and you will win. But, the hardest road to that win will be with the attitude of winning at all costs.
Why? Because the total focus is on the outcome, not the effort. Have you ever seen John McEnroe blow up in a tennis match? That behavior focused on the outcome. Have you ever seen someone lose in a contest and go cheerfully to the winner and congratulate them with all smiles? That behavior is focused on effort.
It's ok to lose, but I'm a winner! Say it everyday and visualize the word "winning" or "winner", entering into your mind and flowing all through your body.
Follow Your Heart!
Out of losing will come some of your greatest successes. Out of losing will come some of your greatest triumphs. By learning how to lose, you will not be defeated by defeat.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Sunday, July 29, 2007
All Talk And No Action; So Let It Be Written; So Let It Be Done!
It is so important to know how to motivate ourselves in an effective manner and in a desirable direction. Throughout life we continually struggle between the dual forces of what we say and what we do. So, I ask you, what would you pay for a personal formula that would turn all your words into action?
A Kid After My Own Heart!
I was in a mall one day and saw a little child say to his father, "daddy, if you say please, I'll let you carry me". And, of course the father reached down with a big smile and picked up his son. Who could resist? I gave some thought to that scene and here are some things I considered.
Could that father have reacted differently? Probably! But the little boy didn't realize it but he went directly to the source of motivation. Right on the spot that kid turned his dad into putty in his hand.
I marveled as I watched this little kid motivate his father. Not motivating himself, but motivating his father. I think there is a key here.
Under His Thumb!
It was the words the little boy used to get the free ride he wanted. It's the words we use on ourselves that get us our free ride or, just another pain in the neck. The little boy could have stomped his foot and demanded to be picked up. That would probably not have motivated his father, or, at least motivated him in the wrong direction.
The right words bring motivation, the wrong words bring resistance. When the right words bring motivation, they bring confidence. It relaxes our defenses and we let our guard down. And then, we stop spending emotional energy to protect ourselves from possible failure. Instead we use that energy to reach for the probable rewards of success.
Say it And then Write it!
Anyone who writes a letter affects the subconscious mind of the person reading it through suggestion. A person may not accept your advice when given to them verbally. Many times because the advice does not come over as a sincere suggestion, it comes across as orders. And, then they ball up like a knot.
At that moment, the timing may be dead wrong for the other person to accept what you say emotionally. Perhaps the only thing he can think about at the moment is; he is a day late and a dollar short and your suggestions to him are about as interesting as two blind men having a conversation in a foreign language. You're trying to philosophize him, and He is facing all out war and sees you as slow as molasses in January.
But, that same person would accept a well written and sincere letter you write to them with open arms. If properly written it would be read over and over, studied frequently and digested. Ok, so what's the point?
Here it is. To write a letter you have to think. You have to formulate your ideas and put them on paper. And when you discover something you're about to write stinks, you can back off and change it. And, the things you say direct the other person's mind, and your own, in the direction you want it to go.
Just Call A Spade A Spade!
Example: all these articles, that I write, are words that I share with you in hopes of motivating you. Some things that I say are controversial and most people would not write such things. But, people accept it from me and realize that's just the way I am. They know that I love all of you and just trying to help and, I do it through my own silly style and backhanded compliments.
I have noticed that even when I read something I've written it has more of an impact on me emotionally. Not, because I wrote it, but because I'm reading it. The power of the written word on our minds is very motivating.
The words that you read somehow seem to be more believable than if someone speaks them. That is not to discount what a well qualified person says, that dude might be as sharp as a cafeteria meatball; it's just the way we learned from our childhood.
We believe what we read in books; it's a subconscious function, until we come across some scatterbrain that's full of alphabet soup. When he says something that completely goes against our personal beliefs or what we know to be true.
Let her Rip!
Let's look at some specifics: Let's take a person who is bothered by timidity. You already know what I think of fear; it's about as useful as a yard full of pump water.
Well, what's the opposite of timidity? Aggressiveness! So, how can a person with fear motivate himself to round third and head for home? Two ways; first, by repeating as an example, "be aggressive", frequently throughout the day.
He should do this especially when in a situation that causes the fear. And, say "Do it now". Secondly, read books and articles that direct his mind in the direction he wants it to go. If the problem area is fear, he will want to read self help books about success and motivation.
The words that he reads will make an impression on his subconscious. That's why I caution people to be very careful what they read.
You will become what you feed your mind on. The subconscious is like a sponge. It will soak up anything and everything you feed it. And, it couldn't care less if you've strayed off the reservation and now stewing in your own juice.
The Ball's in Your Court!
So, here is your formula for personal achievement. Read something that inspires you and then, to be enthusiastic, ACT enthusiastic. Or, whatever you're attempting to do. A great psychologist once said "if we act as if we feel in any given way, in time our feelings catch up with our actions".
And the action can be physical or it can be mental. A thought can be stimulating but it's the action that causes the change in behavior from one direction to another.
Here are some techniques to help you. When you repeat an expression that you wish to use in changing a behavior, say it "loudly." This is particularly important if you are emotionally upset. If you have a fear of something like speaking in public, talk loudly.
Talk rapidly. Your mind functions faster when you speak rapidly. Plus, your mind doesn't have time to tell you that your doing something you're afraid of because you're too busy thinking of the next sentence.
Emphasize words that are important in the context of your situation. Example: If you are worried, say "PEACE", loudly and rapidly with emphasis to make an impression on the subconscious. It will listen and will bring about peace to your emotions.
Your Mission In Life!
But, most important, and always, Do It Now!! . If you will do this, you will prove to yourself that you can motivate yourself to action and create desirable change to any behavior you want. Now, go look in the mirror at that Cheshire-Cat Smile. :>)
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
A Kid After My Own Heart!
I was in a mall one day and saw a little child say to his father, "daddy, if you say please, I'll let you carry me". And, of course the father reached down with a big smile and picked up his son. Who could resist? I gave some thought to that scene and here are some things I considered.
Could that father have reacted differently? Probably! But the little boy didn't realize it but he went directly to the source of motivation. Right on the spot that kid turned his dad into putty in his hand.
I marveled as I watched this little kid motivate his father. Not motivating himself, but motivating his father. I think there is a key here.
Under His Thumb!
It was the words the little boy used to get the free ride he wanted. It's the words we use on ourselves that get us our free ride or, just another pain in the neck. The little boy could have stomped his foot and demanded to be picked up. That would probably not have motivated his father, or, at least motivated him in the wrong direction.
The right words bring motivation, the wrong words bring resistance. When the right words bring motivation, they bring confidence. It relaxes our defenses and we let our guard down. And then, we stop spending emotional energy to protect ourselves from possible failure. Instead we use that energy to reach for the probable rewards of success.
Say it And then Write it!
Anyone who writes a letter affects the subconscious mind of the person reading it through suggestion. A person may not accept your advice when given to them verbally. Many times because the advice does not come over as a sincere suggestion, it comes across as orders. And, then they ball up like a knot.
At that moment, the timing may be dead wrong for the other person to accept what you say emotionally. Perhaps the only thing he can think about at the moment is; he is a day late and a dollar short and your suggestions to him are about as interesting as two blind men having a conversation in a foreign language. You're trying to philosophize him, and He is facing all out war and sees you as slow as molasses in January.
But, that same person would accept a well written and sincere letter you write to them with open arms. If properly written it would be read over and over, studied frequently and digested. Ok, so what's the point?
Here it is. To write a letter you have to think. You have to formulate your ideas and put them on paper. And when you discover something you're about to write stinks, you can back off and change it. And, the things you say direct the other person's mind, and your own, in the direction you want it to go.
Just Call A Spade A Spade!
Example: all these articles, that I write, are words that I share with you in hopes of motivating you. Some things that I say are controversial and most people would not write such things. But, people accept it from me and realize that's just the way I am. They know that I love all of you and just trying to help and, I do it through my own silly style and backhanded compliments.
I have noticed that even when I read something I've written it has more of an impact on me emotionally. Not, because I wrote it, but because I'm reading it. The power of the written word on our minds is very motivating.
The words that you read somehow seem to be more believable than if someone speaks them. That is not to discount what a well qualified person says, that dude might be as sharp as a cafeteria meatball; it's just the way we learned from our childhood.
We believe what we read in books; it's a subconscious function, until we come across some scatterbrain that's full of alphabet soup. When he says something that completely goes against our personal beliefs or what we know to be true.
Let her Rip!
Let's look at some specifics: Let's take a person who is bothered by timidity. You already know what I think of fear; it's about as useful as a yard full of pump water.
Well, what's the opposite of timidity? Aggressiveness! So, how can a person with fear motivate himself to round third and head for home? Two ways; first, by repeating as an example, "be aggressive", frequently throughout the day.
He should do this especially when in a situation that causes the fear. And, say "Do it now". Secondly, read books and articles that direct his mind in the direction he wants it to go. If the problem area is fear, he will want to read self help books about success and motivation.
The words that he reads will make an impression on his subconscious. That's why I caution people to be very careful what they read.
You will become what you feed your mind on. The subconscious is like a sponge. It will soak up anything and everything you feed it. And, it couldn't care less if you've strayed off the reservation and now stewing in your own juice.
The Ball's in Your Court!
So, here is your formula for personal achievement. Read something that inspires you and then, to be enthusiastic, ACT enthusiastic. Or, whatever you're attempting to do. A great psychologist once said "if we act as if we feel in any given way, in time our feelings catch up with our actions".
And the action can be physical or it can be mental. A thought can be stimulating but it's the action that causes the change in behavior from one direction to another.
Here are some techniques to help you. When you repeat an expression that you wish to use in changing a behavior, say it "loudly." This is particularly important if you are emotionally upset. If you have a fear of something like speaking in public, talk loudly.
Talk rapidly. Your mind functions faster when you speak rapidly. Plus, your mind doesn't have time to tell you that your doing something you're afraid of because you're too busy thinking of the next sentence.
Emphasize words that are important in the context of your situation. Example: If you are worried, say "PEACE", loudly and rapidly with emphasis to make an impression on the subconscious. It will listen and will bring about peace to your emotions.
Your Mission In Life!
But, most important, and always, Do It Now!! . If you will do this, you will prove to yourself that you can motivate yourself to action and create desirable change to any behavior you want. Now, go look in the mirror at that Cheshire-Cat Smile. :>)
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
A Magnificent Obsession Is The Best Medicine!
The idea I'm about to share with you can bring you the greatest hope. It can bring you happiness beyond anything you've ever dreamed. It can present to you the quality and quantity of life that may seem like only something that always goes to others. Brace yourself; a band of gypsies would pay to hear this.
The Magnificent Obsession!
No matter who you are, no matter what you have been, no matter what you have done in your past, you can develop a magnificent obsession for something that can change your world and the world you live in.
The principle of this obsession is so simple that the people who could benefit the most may not see it at all. That's because those people are expecting something hard. After all, it has to be hard if it is to be of value is a prevalent attitude in this country.
Here is the simplicity of it. Develop a magnificent obsession for helping other people without expecting anything in return. And then, make sure no one else knows it was you that did it. No payment, no reward, no recognition expectations on your part.
I can just hear somebody now saying, "Vegas, you are just a few grapes short of a fruit salad". :>) Not really. Here's why. You will set in motion an inexorable law that says no matter how hard you try to avoid compensation, reward, payment, or recognition, a reward will be showered on you.
After My Own Heart!
Every living person can do something to help others. We all have the ability to create an insatiable desire to help others. You may not be wealthy, but money is really the lowest form of power in helping others. You know what the highest form is? Love.
The willingness to share yourself for someone else is the highest form of power and help you can offer. The willingness to share a talent, a skill, an experience for the welfare and benefit of another, from an attitude of love, will bring rewards unsearchable in this life.
Think about this: Long after the money is gone from a good deed, the love will remain. Maybe that's one reason some relationships stay together after a financial crisis. People may forget after the money is spent, but the act of love and kindness, the sharing of oneself will never be forgotten.
Silver And Gold Have I None, But Such As I Have I Give Thee!
Your most preciously valued possessions and abilities are often things that are invisible. They are things that only you have and only you can share with a hurting world. The more you share of yourself, the more you will have in return. It's a law; you can't stop it from working no matter how hard you try.
I heard the story of John D. Rockefeller and how he started the March of Dimes foundation. John D. was dying of stomach ulcers at a very early age. He couldn't eat anything but mild baby food. He decided that if his life was going to end so early, he wanted to do something he had never done.
A Golden Opportunity Comes Once In A Lifetime!
So, he proceeded to give away everything he had. He was trying to give it all away before he died, but ironically, the more he gave the more that came back to him. It was coming back faster than he could give it away. And the clock of death was still ticking.
John D. got so caught up in what he was doing that his ulcers disappeared. And, at over 90 years old he laid one mile of his own dimes end on end down a street in New York, and that started the March of Dimes Foundation.
All That Glitters Is Not Gold!
Now, I realize you may not have John D's assets. But, if you doubt this you can prove it to yourself by giving a smile to every one you meet today. Give a pleasant word, a kind gesture and watch what happens.
If you do this, you will discover something about yourself: that it is very difficult to create desirable actions within yourself. . Do this and you will discover that what you have left after you share it with someone will grow and increase. And, what you have left after you withhold it from someone will decrease and diminish.
Now, here is what happens when things start leaving our possession. It really doesn't matter if they are tangible or intangible. Anytime we experience something going away that we've had for awhile we feel rejected and deprived.
Just Gets My Goat!
Then we try to stop the flow outward, assuming it was something tangible, which just translates into protecting and withholding what we have left. And, the more we guard over the things we're trying to protect, the more we see them decrease.
On the other side, when we start looking for ways to show our appreciation for what we have left, the more the increase starts coming back. This is primarily the reason that human nature goes exactly opposite the laws of the universe. Even common sense says; if something is flowing out, then we are diminishing. If something is coming in, then we are increasing.
Every fiber of our being starts screaming, "Dam up the flow". Stop the outflow; when the whole design of the universe was to return "after" we give. Give a frown, get a frown. Give a smile, get a smile.
A Blessing In Disguise! So, even though we by nature, do all we can to stop the outgo, it nevertheless, is the universe's way of bringing back to us. I know it sounds crazy, don't look at me like that; I don't like it either.
Now, no matter how serious the loss, it takes a magnificent obsession to look for a way to continue giving, of that which is desirable and withholding of that which is undesirable. Human nature just says, eye for eye, tooth for tooth.
You may have lost the dearest possession that God had ever given you. And, if so, I am sure that you now have an empathy and compassion, with a much clearer understanding, of the problems of others in that same situation.
More Power To You!
You are in a perfect position to use your empathy to reach out to someone else and share what you've learned. That's when the power of your magnificent obsession goes into gear and return and increase come showering back.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
The Magnificent Obsession!
No matter who you are, no matter what you have been, no matter what you have done in your past, you can develop a magnificent obsession for something that can change your world and the world you live in.
The principle of this obsession is so simple that the people who could benefit the most may not see it at all. That's because those people are expecting something hard. After all, it has to be hard if it is to be of value is a prevalent attitude in this country.
Here is the simplicity of it. Develop a magnificent obsession for helping other people without expecting anything in return. And then, make sure no one else knows it was you that did it. No payment, no reward, no recognition expectations on your part.
I can just hear somebody now saying, "Vegas, you are just a few grapes short of a fruit salad". :>) Not really. Here's why. You will set in motion an inexorable law that says no matter how hard you try to avoid compensation, reward, payment, or recognition, a reward will be showered on you.
After My Own Heart!
Every living person can do something to help others. We all have the ability to create an insatiable desire to help others. You may not be wealthy, but money is really the lowest form of power in helping others. You know what the highest form is? Love.
The willingness to share yourself for someone else is the highest form of power and help you can offer. The willingness to share a talent, a skill, an experience for the welfare and benefit of another, from an attitude of love, will bring rewards unsearchable in this life.
Think about this: Long after the money is gone from a good deed, the love will remain. Maybe that's one reason some relationships stay together after a financial crisis. People may forget after the money is spent, but the act of love and kindness, the sharing of oneself will never be forgotten.
Silver And Gold Have I None, But Such As I Have I Give Thee!
Your most preciously valued possessions and abilities are often things that are invisible. They are things that only you have and only you can share with a hurting world. The more you share of yourself, the more you will have in return. It's a law; you can't stop it from working no matter how hard you try.
I heard the story of John D. Rockefeller and how he started the March of Dimes foundation. John D. was dying of stomach ulcers at a very early age. He couldn't eat anything but mild baby food. He decided that if his life was going to end so early, he wanted to do something he had never done.
A Golden Opportunity Comes Once In A Lifetime!
So, he proceeded to give away everything he had. He was trying to give it all away before he died, but ironically, the more he gave the more that came back to him. It was coming back faster than he could give it away. And the clock of death was still ticking.
John D. got so caught up in what he was doing that his ulcers disappeared. And, at over 90 years old he laid one mile of his own dimes end on end down a street in New York, and that started the March of Dimes Foundation.
All That Glitters Is Not Gold!
Now, I realize you may not have John D's assets. But, if you doubt this you can prove it to yourself by giving a smile to every one you meet today. Give a pleasant word, a kind gesture and watch what happens.
If you do this, you will discover something about yourself: that it is very difficult to create desirable actions within yourself. . Do this and you will discover that what you have left after you share it with someone will grow and increase. And, what you have left after you withhold it from someone will decrease and diminish.
Now, here is what happens when things start leaving our possession. It really doesn't matter if they are tangible or intangible. Anytime we experience something going away that we've had for awhile we feel rejected and deprived.
Just Gets My Goat!
Then we try to stop the flow outward, assuming it was something tangible, which just translates into protecting and withholding what we have left. And, the more we guard over the things we're trying to protect, the more we see them decrease.
On the other side, when we start looking for ways to show our appreciation for what we have left, the more the increase starts coming back. This is primarily the reason that human nature goes exactly opposite the laws of the universe. Even common sense says; if something is flowing out, then we are diminishing. If something is coming in, then we are increasing.
Every fiber of our being starts screaming, "Dam up the flow". Stop the outflow; when the whole design of the universe was to return "after" we give. Give a frown, get a frown. Give a smile, get a smile.
A Blessing In Disguise! So, even though we by nature, do all we can to stop the outgo, it nevertheless, is the universe's way of bringing back to us. I know it sounds crazy, don't look at me like that; I don't like it either.
Now, no matter how serious the loss, it takes a magnificent obsession to look for a way to continue giving, of that which is desirable and withholding of that which is undesirable. Human nature just says, eye for eye, tooth for tooth.
You may have lost the dearest possession that God had ever given you. And, if so, I am sure that you now have an empathy and compassion, with a much clearer understanding, of the problems of others in that same situation.
More Power To You!
You are in a perfect position to use your empathy to reach out to someone else and share what you've learned. That's when the power of your magnificent obsession goes into gear and return and increase come showering back.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Absence Makes The Fear Go Yonder!
Emotions are controlled by a combination of reason and action. Man is the only member of the animal kingdom that can control the emotions he experiences on a day to day basis. But, in the negative antagonistic environment we live in, you will need a good healthy dose of something to turn your water into wine.
Have you ever heard the saying, "A rolling stone gathers no moss?" Very true not only for a rock, but for you and I also. Let me explain. The longer we dwell on something the more emotions, involving that situation, are digging their roots down deep inside of us.
The deeper those roots go the more strangle hold they have on our thinking and ultimately, our actions. Have you ever experienced this? You are going through a painful situation, your brain is like a speeding bullet, fear has surrounded you, and you're up to your neck in alligators?
Now what do you do? You begin to analyze every possible way to deliver yourself, and, with every idea that comes, you shoot it down. Sound familiar?
A Penny For Your Thoughts!
I know; that's just about all you think your solutions are worth. But, maybe you're just trying to change the wrong flat tire. Now stay with me. You see, the "problem" you are trying to solve, may be the hardest pathway to your solution. Much of the time, a problem will disappear faster if we take ourselves away from the problem.
Why, because we left it alone? Oh no. It's because in the heat of the battle, at the moment of decision, your reasoning is not going to make good decisions. And, granted, the problem needs solving. But, remember, the longer you dwell on the problem, the more the problem stays in front of your mind. Someone said, "I can't take my mind off the problem; it has to be dealt with." Says Who? Or Whom, if you prefer.
How do you know, when you're all wound up inside, and just one step away from falling in the bottomless pit, how to deal with it anyway? You ever heard this? "Love comes around when you're busy doing things you like?" Well guess what? Solutions are a lot like that too.
I'm Flying This Coop!
As long as you are going to spend enormous amounts of energy to solve the problem, you're going to find the problem hanging on you like a stink on a skunk. Get out of there. Go do something you like. Make yourself absent and the fear will go yonder.
You won't know why or even care. All you'll know is; you feel more in control, you feel more confident, you'll feel like your elevator is no longer stuck between floors, and you'll be mentally ready to give the problem the boot.
The problem will still be there when you get back. I know you didn't want to hear that, but it will. Why do we do this? Because, most likely, you are not going to be able to see the problem until you make sure you're not part of the problem and making it worse.
Sometimes we have to make ourselves absent from a situation in order to see the situation. The best answers always come when the mind is calm and relaxed.
Your solution is as close as your breath. It might not come as immediately as you want it, and it might be harder than Chinese algebra to solve it, but, the sooner you make yourself absent emotionally and, sometimes physically helps, the sooner you'll begin to notice the hoot and holler is about to come.
Get Back Jack!
Try this simple technique sometime. Next time the devil is trying to tap dance on your forehead, put down everything you are doing and walk away for fifteen minutes. Find anything you can that causes a warm and fuzzy feeling for you. There is something you are very fond of; something that really calms you down and makes you feel good.
I don't care how bad the problem looks. You CAN take your mind off of it for fifteen minutes and you know what that thing is you love. It could be a person, a painting, a stump, nah....I 'm kidding, I don't care what it is as long as it makes you feel good.
Now You're Cooking With Gas!
Now, fix a picture of it in your mind. Relive every moment in your memory banks of every incident that comes into your minds eye. CAUTION...only do this with wonderful things from your past that you have very fond feelings about; things that give you exciting feelings of empowerment and energy.
It goes without saying this would be very counter productive to do otherwise. And, if you will do this with all the concentration you can muster, you will have made yourself absent from the problem, you will have sent the fear and anxiety into oblivion and nature promises you, you will come back fifteen minutes later with a better perspective on how to solve the problem.
And, even if you don't come back with an immediate solution, you will have a calmer mind, a sharper focus, a big smile, and everyone around you will want to know if you're a little bit pregnant. Nah. I'm kidding. :>)
The Day The Stuff Hit The Fan!
In conclusion I have a secret to tell you. Tonight, as I'm writing this article is Feb 17, my birthday. And, I have just had one of the biggest challenges today that I have had in a long time. I mean BIG challenge. And, on my birthday even. And if that's not enough to make you wanna spit. You know, one of those days like; if today was a fish, I'd throw it back in the river kinda days. :>)
Well, I love to write and sing. So, I took my own advice. I took myself physically away from the area where the challenges were and started writing this article. And because this is something I love within fifteen minutes my mind was no longer fixated on the problem, my emotions had calmed down, my focus was on writing, doing the thing I love, and all my confidence has returned that a solution will be found. I don't see it yet, but that's not important. It's there, I will find it. You can too.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
Have you ever heard the saying, "A rolling stone gathers no moss?" Very true not only for a rock, but for you and I also. Let me explain. The longer we dwell on something the more emotions, involving that situation, are digging their roots down deep inside of us.
The deeper those roots go the more strangle hold they have on our thinking and ultimately, our actions. Have you ever experienced this? You are going through a painful situation, your brain is like a speeding bullet, fear has surrounded you, and you're up to your neck in alligators?
Now what do you do? You begin to analyze every possible way to deliver yourself, and, with every idea that comes, you shoot it down. Sound familiar?
A Penny For Your Thoughts!
I know; that's just about all you think your solutions are worth. But, maybe you're just trying to change the wrong flat tire. Now stay with me. You see, the "problem" you are trying to solve, may be the hardest pathway to your solution. Much of the time, a problem will disappear faster if we take ourselves away from the problem.
Why, because we left it alone? Oh no. It's because in the heat of the battle, at the moment of decision, your reasoning is not going to make good decisions. And, granted, the problem needs solving. But, remember, the longer you dwell on the problem, the more the problem stays in front of your mind. Someone said, "I can't take my mind off the problem; it has to be dealt with." Says Who? Or Whom, if you prefer.
How do you know, when you're all wound up inside, and just one step away from falling in the bottomless pit, how to deal with it anyway? You ever heard this? "Love comes around when you're busy doing things you like?" Well guess what? Solutions are a lot like that too.
I'm Flying This Coop!
As long as you are going to spend enormous amounts of energy to solve the problem, you're going to find the problem hanging on you like a stink on a skunk. Get out of there. Go do something you like. Make yourself absent and the fear will go yonder.
You won't know why or even care. All you'll know is; you feel more in control, you feel more confident, you'll feel like your elevator is no longer stuck between floors, and you'll be mentally ready to give the problem the boot.
The problem will still be there when you get back. I know you didn't want to hear that, but it will. Why do we do this? Because, most likely, you are not going to be able to see the problem until you make sure you're not part of the problem and making it worse.
Sometimes we have to make ourselves absent from a situation in order to see the situation. The best answers always come when the mind is calm and relaxed.
Your solution is as close as your breath. It might not come as immediately as you want it, and it might be harder than Chinese algebra to solve it, but, the sooner you make yourself absent emotionally and, sometimes physically helps, the sooner you'll begin to notice the hoot and holler is about to come.
Get Back Jack!
Try this simple technique sometime. Next time the devil is trying to tap dance on your forehead, put down everything you are doing and walk away for fifteen minutes. Find anything you can that causes a warm and fuzzy feeling for you. There is something you are very fond of; something that really calms you down and makes you feel good.
I don't care how bad the problem looks. You CAN take your mind off of it for fifteen minutes and you know what that thing is you love. It could be a person, a painting, a stump, nah....I 'm kidding, I don't care what it is as long as it makes you feel good.
Now You're Cooking With Gas!
Now, fix a picture of it in your mind. Relive every moment in your memory banks of every incident that comes into your minds eye. CAUTION...only do this with wonderful things from your past that you have very fond feelings about; things that give you exciting feelings of empowerment and energy.
It goes without saying this would be very counter productive to do otherwise. And, if you will do this with all the concentration you can muster, you will have made yourself absent from the problem, you will have sent the fear and anxiety into oblivion and nature promises you, you will come back fifteen minutes later with a better perspective on how to solve the problem.
And, even if you don't come back with an immediate solution, you will have a calmer mind, a sharper focus, a big smile, and everyone around you will want to know if you're a little bit pregnant. Nah. I'm kidding. :>)
The Day The Stuff Hit The Fan!
In conclusion I have a secret to tell you. Tonight, as I'm writing this article is Feb 17, my birthday. And, I have just had one of the biggest challenges today that I have had in a long time. I mean BIG challenge. And, on my birthday even. And if that's not enough to make you wanna spit. You know, one of those days like; if today was a fish, I'd throw it back in the river kinda days. :>)
Well, I love to write and sing. So, I took my own advice. I took myself physically away from the area where the challenges were and started writing this article. And because this is something I love within fifteen minutes my mind was no longer fixated on the problem, my emotions had calmed down, my focus was on writing, doing the thing I love, and all my confidence has returned that a solution will be found. I don't see it yet, but that's not important. It's there, I will find it. You can too.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
3 Little Words Equal More Power To You!
Life shouldn't be so complicated. Have you ever wondered why it is? Have you ever thought; "why can't I figure this out?" Have you ever said; "I don't have an attitude problem, you have a perception problem?" Why are our lives so complicated?
And Even My Reality Check Bounced!
I think living is a lot simpler than what we realize. I think living can be boiled down to three words. Listen, then Act! Listen to what? Act on what? How about listening to that still quiet voice inside your head that is constantly trying to get your attention?
How many times have you had a big issue to deal with and had a thought that you just let pass. Maybe you thought; "no, that won't fix it!" Then another; "nah...that's not the answer either." Now granted, maybe it didn't look like the right solution. Maybe it just didn't have the right feel, or some elements seemed to be missing.
Well, hardly is any solution as clear as crystal when it first comes to light. There are always some facets of it that need to be hammered out. And, that requires some more "listening." But, most of the time we go running off half cocked with partial information and cause ourselves a big pain in the neck.
Earlier we said living can be boiled down to three words. Listen then Act. Acting is only half of what we need to do to bring success. The problem is; most people spend ninety percent of the time focused on the acting and ten percent focused on the listening, if any at all.
Waiting Lasts Too Long!
Inherent in listening is an element of patience. And most of the time, we find ourselves long on need and short on patience. Living in a microwave world makes it tough to live patiently. But, learning the art of listening will make patience seem more tolerable.
Here's why. Waiting on something we desperately need, makes us feel like we are idle and irresponsible. Keeping the patience makes us feel like we're doing nothing.
We keep having the feeling, "we should be doing something." Maybe you have heard the saying, "if it is to be, it's up to me!" Maybe so, but, not necessarily Tonto. You have some help you may not even know about.
Patience just doesn't conjure up the right kind of emotions in us to be still that long. The more the time passes the more impatient we become. But, Listening seems to be, and feels more like a pro-active function that we can tolerate.
Easy AS ABC!
It feels, at least somewhat, that we are doing something constructive to the completion of this problem. And the good part about listening is, that it's our spirit trying to give us the answers we need.
But, to make this an analogy; our spirit is a perfect gentleman/lady. He never imposes himself on our desires. If we want to go off half cocked, he will just be silent till we calm down. When we finally get quiet, he will give leading once again.
Maybe that just answered a question that many have had about why inspiration comes so sporadically. Have you ever had to wait till the fifty ninth second to get an answer you needed?
At the very last moment of truth, you were finally and totally out of all answers, ready to just let happen whatever was going to happen, and in the quietness of your mind and body your spirit sends the answer. Personally, for me, this happens mostly when I'm totally out of all resources to help myself.
Getting Over The Hump!
Have you ever said this to someone; "the answer is just on the tip of my tongue?" That's a pretty good sign you need to get quiet and spend a little time listening to your spirit. He's trying to give you answers and you are too busy doing "stuff", that's going nowhere, and wandering around, for forty years, on the back side of the desert.
The point I'm trying to make is; we are the ones that make our lives complicated and difficult. Life was never meant to be a series of disappointments followed by death. We are just not using the tools we have been given to live it efficiently.
The hardest problems I've ever solved in my life were the ones that I just jumped right on top of and showed it who was boss. I may have solved it, but, I knew I had been in a fight with Magilla Gorilla when it was over.
Give It A Rest!
The easiest problems I've ever solved in my life were the one's that I took the time to listen to my spirit and see what he might have to say about it. A word of caution! You can't listen effectively to your spirit while watching the Texas Chain Saw Massacre! Sorry, but he wants some quiet in the room!
Now I'm not trying to tell you that you need to spend ten hours a day listening to your spirit and trying to find out what he has to say about any problem you may be facing. Your spirit's got more sense than that. He's no dummy and realizes you have to make decisions.
What your spirit wants from you is a little respect and recognition. He wants you to run to him for answers instead of running headlong into a brick wall and wind up chasing your tail in every direction. You ever seen a dog chasing his tail? Going in circles and not getting anywhere! How dumb can you get?
Learning how to listen to your spirit only takes a few minutes a day. Daily practice of quiet time and listening will bring great rewards. The more you do it, the more you will be able to discern good information from "noise" in your mind which is just chatter.
Deep in your spirit is the answer for every problem life can throw at you. But, your spirit has some rules and you have to follow them. They're not hard. As we said, living was not designed to be hard; we are the ones that make it hard.
The Two Commandments!
Rule number one: recognize that quiet time, listening to your spirit, is crucial for your problem solving ability. Rule number two: develop a little humility when the answer comes. And, when you solve it, don't be too quick to hog all the credit. A little humility won't hurt you.
Let me give you an illustration: Find a quiet place, sitting in a comfortable chair, with good posture, close your eyes and blank everything out of your mind.
As you remain quiet thoughts and ideas will come to you. Some will be noise and chatter; some will be worth listening to for more information. The longer you do it, the more efficient you'll become at listening.
Last But Not Least!
Finally, when the most plausible answer comes, the one you feel has the best chance of working, get up and go "act". But, you didn't need me to tell you that. Most of us are pretty good at burning the candle at both ends. But, "listening to our spirit", tends to get our knickers all in a twist.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
And Even My Reality Check Bounced!
I think living is a lot simpler than what we realize. I think living can be boiled down to three words. Listen, then Act! Listen to what? Act on what? How about listening to that still quiet voice inside your head that is constantly trying to get your attention?
How many times have you had a big issue to deal with and had a thought that you just let pass. Maybe you thought; "no, that won't fix it!" Then another; "nah...that's not the answer either." Now granted, maybe it didn't look like the right solution. Maybe it just didn't have the right feel, or some elements seemed to be missing.
Well, hardly is any solution as clear as crystal when it first comes to light. There are always some facets of it that need to be hammered out. And, that requires some more "listening." But, most of the time we go running off half cocked with partial information and cause ourselves a big pain in the neck.
Earlier we said living can be boiled down to three words. Listen then Act. Acting is only half of what we need to do to bring success. The problem is; most people spend ninety percent of the time focused on the acting and ten percent focused on the listening, if any at all.
Waiting Lasts Too Long!
Inherent in listening is an element of patience. And most of the time, we find ourselves long on need and short on patience. Living in a microwave world makes it tough to live patiently. But, learning the art of listening will make patience seem more tolerable.
Here's why. Waiting on something we desperately need, makes us feel like we are idle and irresponsible. Keeping the patience makes us feel like we're doing nothing.
We keep having the feeling, "we should be doing something." Maybe you have heard the saying, "if it is to be, it's up to me!" Maybe so, but, not necessarily Tonto. You have some help you may not even know about.
Patience just doesn't conjure up the right kind of emotions in us to be still that long. The more the time passes the more impatient we become. But, Listening seems to be, and feels more like a pro-active function that we can tolerate.
Easy AS ABC!
It feels, at least somewhat, that we are doing something constructive to the completion of this problem. And the good part about listening is, that it's our spirit trying to give us the answers we need.
But, to make this an analogy; our spirit is a perfect gentleman/lady. He never imposes himself on our desires. If we want to go off half cocked, he will just be silent till we calm down. When we finally get quiet, he will give leading once again.
Maybe that just answered a question that many have had about why inspiration comes so sporadically. Have you ever had to wait till the fifty ninth second to get an answer you needed?
At the very last moment of truth, you were finally and totally out of all answers, ready to just let happen whatever was going to happen, and in the quietness of your mind and body your spirit sends the answer. Personally, for me, this happens mostly when I'm totally out of all resources to help myself.
Getting Over The Hump!
Have you ever said this to someone; "the answer is just on the tip of my tongue?" That's a pretty good sign you need to get quiet and spend a little time listening to your spirit. He's trying to give you answers and you are too busy doing "stuff", that's going nowhere, and wandering around, for forty years, on the back side of the desert.
The point I'm trying to make is; we are the ones that make our lives complicated and difficult. Life was never meant to be a series of disappointments followed by death. We are just not using the tools we have been given to live it efficiently.
The hardest problems I've ever solved in my life were the ones that I just jumped right on top of and showed it who was boss. I may have solved it, but, I knew I had been in a fight with Magilla Gorilla when it was over.
Give It A Rest!
The easiest problems I've ever solved in my life were the one's that I took the time to listen to my spirit and see what he might have to say about it. A word of caution! You can't listen effectively to your spirit while watching the Texas Chain Saw Massacre! Sorry, but he wants some quiet in the room!
Now I'm not trying to tell you that you need to spend ten hours a day listening to your spirit and trying to find out what he has to say about any problem you may be facing. Your spirit's got more sense than that. He's no dummy and realizes you have to make decisions.
What your spirit wants from you is a little respect and recognition. He wants you to run to him for answers instead of running headlong into a brick wall and wind up chasing your tail in every direction. You ever seen a dog chasing his tail? Going in circles and not getting anywhere! How dumb can you get?
Learning how to listen to your spirit only takes a few minutes a day. Daily practice of quiet time and listening will bring great rewards. The more you do it, the more you will be able to discern good information from "noise" in your mind which is just chatter.
Deep in your spirit is the answer for every problem life can throw at you. But, your spirit has some rules and you have to follow them. They're not hard. As we said, living was not designed to be hard; we are the ones that make it hard.
The Two Commandments!
Rule number one: recognize that quiet time, listening to your spirit, is crucial for your problem solving ability. Rule number two: develop a little humility when the answer comes. And, when you solve it, don't be too quick to hog all the credit. A little humility won't hurt you.
Let me give you an illustration: Find a quiet place, sitting in a comfortable chair, with good posture, close your eyes and blank everything out of your mind.
As you remain quiet thoughts and ideas will come to you. Some will be noise and chatter; some will be worth listening to for more information. The longer you do it, the more efficient you'll become at listening.
Last But Not Least!
Finally, when the most plausible answer comes, the one you feel has the best chance of working, get up and go "act". But, you didn't need me to tell you that. Most of us are pretty good at burning the candle at both ends. But, "listening to our spirit", tends to get our knickers all in a twist.
Richard Vegas © 2000-2007 Richard Vegas is a Popular Recording Artist and Forex Trader. He specializes in teaching people how to discover their passion in life and make money in the Forex Market. You can read more of Richard's articles throughout the internet. Just search "Wing-Tips The Success System". He has recorded two albums and weekly keeps in touch by email with fans and customers. He invites you to visit his Forex Training Site at: http://www.forexfresh.com You may also hear and follow Richard's music at: http://www.richardvegas.com
Monday, July 2, 2007
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